As moms we know there are certain things that are hard to come by. Finishing coffee while it’s hot, empty laundry baskets, snacks that don’t have to be shared and silence are just a few of those things that come to mind. Our lives are always filled with the plethora of duties that come along with motherhood. Now that things getting somewhat back to “normal”, our lives have picked up again. We are once again dropping kids off to one of their many activities, rushing home to make dinners, staying up late to get some laundry done and collapsing in our beds for a few short hours only to get up and do it all over again the next day.
While I love my life and the am grateful for all of the experiences that come along with being a mom, I do have to say there is something to be said about loosing oneself in the process. I have found that in the busyness of all of the “doing”, I have at times lost sight of myself. The things that I enjoy, the things that make me laugh or even cry. Not that I don’t enjoy my family, but it is so important for us to be able to find enjoyment and fulfillment outside of our spouses and children. It is pivotal to be able to find our own peace. The thing that brings you joy and comfort regardless of what’s going on around you. As moms, this is must have!
Admittedly, it took a long time before I knew what that looked like for myself. I enjoy crocheting, I have done it since I was a little girl. Not that I’m very good at it, but it’s something that I like to do from time to time that doesn’t require much thought. For a while, I thought that crocheting was my peace. But I found it to be quite frustrating, especially when a stitch didn’t turn out quite how I wanted. I still do it from time to time, but it wasn’t what really brought me happiness like I’d initially thought. I tried different craft projects and let’s just say I am not a Pinterest mom, so that was not it either. I moved on to baking and I was so stressed out by the time I got whatever it was into the oven that I scrapped that idea rather quickly. After talking to a couple of close friends who are avid gardeners, I decided to give it a try. Now let me just tell you, I am a city girl. I was born and raised in a city called Paterson in New Jersey. I do not dig in dirt, I do not do bugs and I under NO circumstances do snakes! I now live in the state of Georgia where the summers are of the devil and the bugs are the size of my head. Needless to say, I am the last person on earth anyone would suggest gardening to.
But I tried it. And I loved it! I am literally addicted to it. This is only my second year in and it brings me so much joy. It’s therapy when I need it, it’s love, it’s reproduction, it’s peace. Gardening is my peace! It took a lot of trial and error to find it, but now that I have it, I don’t intend to let it go. I encourage you all to find your peace. And it may not look like someone else’s, but that’s ok because it’s yours. It may not even look like what you’d imagined it to be, mine certainly didn’t. So don’t be afraid to go out on a limb and try something different. Whatever it takes, by all means take the time to find it. The beauty in finding your peace is that once you do, you will learn more about yourself than you’d imagined. Don’t get me wrong, I still get stressed out at times and overwhelmed like everyone else. But there’s a solace that I find in my garden that helps me in spite of those times.
So where is your solace found? If you don’t know, do the necessary work to find out. You need it, you deserve it and most importantly momma, you’re worth it!